Yes, you read that right. Sometimes, it's crucial to drop that 'niceness' from your bag and assert your boundaries.
There's nothing wrong with being available for the people you care about, but you can't afford to be available to those who don't value your time or the effort you put into relationships.
I once found myself in a relationship where I had to take a step back because it felt like I was giving my all, yet the other person didn't appreciate or acknowledge the significance of my efforts. In situations like that, I learned the importance of saying, "Stop being nice."
When people fail to adjust their attitudes and presume you'll always be there for them, it's a cue to say, "Stop being nice."
When individuals think it's acceptable to invalidate your feelings, it's time to say, "Stop being nice."
When you realize that the energy you're investing isn't being reciprocated or respected, it's a powerful moment to say, "Stop being nice."
Continuing to be overly accommodating to those who continuously take advantage or disregard your boundaries isn't kindness—it's a disservice to yourself. It's about realizing your worth and establishing healthy boundaries to maintain your self-respect and dignity.
So, in those moments when being 'nice' equates to compromising your self-worth, it's perfectly okay to say no, to set boundaries, and to prioritize your well-being.
Love & Light,
Olajumoke.
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